“My partner is too defensive” is a common complaint I hear as a couples therapist. We are all wired to protect ourselves — so most of us get defensive at least sometimes. Here are 12 truths about defensiveness that can help us better understand this impulse.
Creating a spiritual life is like writing a story. Ultimately, it is a mystery—one that will not unfold unless you go into the workroom and make an effort, however banal and humdrum it feels. In other words, you have to practice.
Almost every animal species engages in some form of play. Animals splash or tumble or roll over one another. In Cuba, two crocs played in a courtship ritual, with the male inviting the female to take rides on his back in their pool.
We find ourselves justifying relationships that are unrequited, toxic, or just lacking in fulfillment of basic needs. A zircon love affair is doomed to break your heart. You are worthy of a diamond. Here’s what being love-crazy looks like: