What It Really Means If You Love But You’re Not In Love

“I love her, but I’m not in love with her.”

In the 35 years in which I have been a relationship counselor and life coach and among the thousands of couples I have seen, at least 25 percent begin with this statement.

12 Truths About Defensive Behavior

“My partner is too defensive” is a common complaint I hear as a couples therapist. We are all wired to protect ourselves — so most of us get defensive at least sometimes. Here are 12 truths about defensiveness that can help us better understand this impulse.

The One Thing To Turn Your Goals Into Reality

Creating a spiritual life is like writing a story. Ultimately, it is a mystery—one that will not unfold unless you go into the workroom and make an effort, however banal and humdrum it feels. In other words, you have to practice.

How To Make Your Relationship Feel Brand-New

Almost every animal species engages in some form of play. Animals splash or tumble or roll over one another. In Cuba, two crocs played in a courtship ritual, with the male inviting the female to take rides on his back in their pool.

The Difference Between Love and Limerence

We find ourselves justifying relationships that are unrequited, toxic, or just lacking in fulfillment of basic needs. A zircon love affair is doomed to break your heart. You are worthy of a diamond. Here’s what being love-crazy looks like:

Guest Blog: Building Relationship Skills

Linda Carroll Guest Post

Myth: “Having had a happy childhood is a prerequisite to having a great relationship as an adult.” If this myth were true, most of us would be doomed to relationship hell.