The stories we tell ourselves, especially those we are unaware can profoundly shape our lives and relationships.
I do think gratitude is as important to cultivate as empathy for all the suffering we see around us and experience within us.
Our perspective is shaped by the stories we tell ourselves, the internal narratives about ourselves and others.
Think about whether you may be using a shield or a sword out of habit when handing someone a burrito might change the whole trajectory.
Among the wise truths I embrace: “A good thing never makes up for a bad, and a bad thing doesn’t take away from the good.”
While we may never reach a perfect and trouble-free relationship, quick repair is the secret of restoring connectedness.
The moment we feel distressed, cortisol floods our bodies and brains, and our nervous system reacts to perceived danger.
We all need resilience (from strength, not shame) and vulnerability and to give our partner the room to express each of those in the way s/he needs to.
Being highly defensive does not mean you are somehow deficient or a bad person. It most likely means that you are harder on yourself than others are.
The Essence of Being Human
I refuse to turn away from the world’s pain and do my small part to make it less, while I continue to seek and bask in the light.
The Well at the World’s End
Has it always been this way in the world? Do social media and our hyperconnected AI world make it seem worse, or is it really getting worse?
A Place for the Angel to Land
When our wills cannot cause the angel to land, clear a space and give the question enough time to guide us to the solution.
The Red Zone of Communication
In order to be able to truly listen and respond well, our body needs to be at ease and open to connection.
Does Couples Therapy Really Work?
Everyone craves connection, respect, and appreciation. When we are denied these, the disappointment leads to emotional shutdown.
Why You Keep Dating The Wrong People
It’s easy to fall in love. It’s not so easy to make love last. It takes curiosity, emotional intelligence, and a willingness to give up being right.
Change of Plans
Faced with everything I was hearing about the loss of life...should we stop living our daily lives when facing all these calamities?
Family Stories
When I think about them being the kind of story my great-grandchildren could tell about me, the most astonishing was this one.