The moment we feel distressed, cortisol floods our bodies and brains, and our nervous system reacts to perceived danger.
“Buckle Up, Buttercup”
We all need resilience (from strength, not shame) and vulnerability and to give our partner the room to express each of those in the way s/he needs to.
What to Say (and Not) to Someone Who’s Grieving
Marilyn Mendoza wrote: “Remember that there is no magic wand that can take away the pain and grief. The best any of us can do is to be there & be supportive.” My mother, an articulate and highly accomplished writer, began to lose much of what she valued a few years ago.
The Biggest Lie We Keep Telling Ourselves About…
Love is not a goal that you’ll ever arrive at and be able to check off your list. It’s something that takes much of a lifetime to actually understand.
“Just Trust Your Heart”⏤Bad Advice for Good Relationships
When you are trying to decide whether a person is right for you, idealistic advisers may tell you to “just trust your heart.” Not a good idea.
Constantly Getting Defensive? Here’s Your 4-Step Solution
Being highly defensive does not mean you are somehow deficient or a bad person. It most likely means that you are harder on yourself than others are.