Picture this: Riding a bike with your partner, or walking your dog against the backdrop of a gorgeous sunset. There is ease, openheartedness, and affection. And then: “We need to talk about something you said at the party last week that bothered me.”
How Yoga Can Help You Deal with Tragedy
As I walked into my yoga class, I passed a close friend sitting on her mat, rocking back and forth. I saw that she was crying. When I reached out to her, she fell into my arms like a child. I suggested we leave; we went to the car, and she told me her story.
The Psychological Reason You Get Defensive
If you know a defensive person, it can be extremely frustrating. If you’re a defensive person, are you doomed to drive people away with your defensiveness forever? If you’re in a relationship with a defensive person, should you just cut and run? Not just yet.
What It Really Means If You Love But You’re Not In Love
“I love her, but I’m not in love with her.”
In the 35 years in which I have been a relationship counselor and life coach and among the thousands of couples I have seen, at least 25 percent begin with this statement.
12 Truths About Defensive Behavior
“My partner is too defensive” is a common complaint I hear as a couples therapist. We are all wired to protect ourselves — so most of us get defensive at least sometimes. Here are 12 truths about defensiveness that can help us better understand this impulse.
The One Thing To Turn Your Goals Into Reality
Creating a spiritual life is like writing a story. Ultimately, it is a mystery—one that will not unfold unless you go into the workroom and make an effort, however banal and humdrum it feels. In other words, you have to practice.